tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post1617851425634843289..comments2023-11-03T08:47:31.579-07:00Comments on this girl's life: in responselisalisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03506556513672749033noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-44190737346374255242010-02-11T20:55:09.329-08:002010-02-11T20:55:09.329-08:00I definitely hear you and am so sorry that happene...I definitely hear you and am so sorry that happened. (hug) I would be balling in my room with Tucker... I don't believe you're manipulating the system and "choose" to be disabled or receive assistance of any form because you are lazy or ignorant. Not at all.<br />That kind of criticism isn't constructive; It's toxic and eats away at you because it is so hurtful. And the worst part is that its not true. <br /><br />I don't know many people who would trade health for asking for help because they can't function. <br /><br />(hug) I love you.Keelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00468076434968691018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-52450653411355316112010-02-11T19:56:42.735-08:002010-02-11T19:56:42.735-08:00But you do have a job - you're a fulltime mom....But you do have a job - you're a fulltime mom. That's harder than any other job in the world.<br /><br />Please be gentle with yourself. You've obviously been through a lot, you're battling an eating disorder, and you are caring for your two daughters. That's a lot!<br /><br />Sending huge hugs your way!<br />AngelaAngela Elain Gambrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08199876962091491591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-11392317013419374652010-02-11T18:16:22.726-08:002010-02-11T18:16:22.726-08:00bless your heart girl i wish you the best. while t...bless your heart girl i wish you the best. while there are many people who do abuse the system, you ar NOT one of them. get your health and self together because it is of PRIORITY importance!!! never give up! i m rooting for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-62614296955823938192010-02-11T18:13:22.737-08:002010-02-11T18:13:22.737-08:00Lisa, I am so sorry that someone said this to you....Lisa, I am so sorry that someone said this to you. As you and I have already discussed, this is NOT TRUE. But, I also have people in my life who tell me very similar things. "You'd be better if you just had something to keep your mind off of it." "You can't live off of the system forever." "You're using the system." Well, I had to go through a very extensive application process to get the medicaid, medicare, and ssdi. They are not just hand-outs. Obviously someone thought I was disabled enough to need them. Just because you can't see my disability doesn't mean I don't have one.<br /><br />I've been thinking about getting a job. But, lately, it's become more and more obvious to me that that is not a possibility right now. I have my OP treatment for my eating disorder. Then my anxiety has been so bad that I can't sleep, I forget to eat, I can't remember whether or no I took my medications, I get physically sick, and I have panic attacks. Yeah, I can function perfectly well at a job. Not so much.jodilynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01721938051747495839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-10641284205622038482010-02-11T16:39:27.193-08:002010-02-11T16:39:27.193-08:00Lisa, I hope you read this. I;d like to email you ...Lisa, I hope you read this. I;d like to email you if I could. My father was also on disability for depression and anxiety. He recently had to sue his boss citing the disability as part of the reason [it's a long story, hard to get in to, but the main thing was he had to sue]. <br />As a result [not only because I, myself, was forced to leave my job due to my own mental health issues] I am very sympathetic AND empathetic to what you are saying.<br />I watched my [ex] stepmom go through this. Now I am watching my dad lose his job because his boss is such an asshole.<br /><br />Claiming disability over mental illness is, in my eyes, completely legitimate. Jane [the ex stepmom] was a therapist...yet, she was so depressed and suicidal that she tried to kill herself 8 times my senior year of HS. She was hospitalized 7 times because she was not successful [a cry for help? most likely, but also OBVIOUS mental illness at work]. As a therapist AND Psych Professor at BU...was she just trying to find an easy way out of the job? Hell, no. She tried to go back to her job even when she wasn't well enough.<br /><br />As for my dad, he couldn't deal with the shit his boss [sorry for my language] was putting him through, anymore. My father was an addict and only became clean months before I was born. His mother was an alcoholic. He claims he overcame depression in 1996, but who knows. He STILL tried to work but after nearly 20 years at this place and at the mercy of his boss he had had enough. Does that mean he was using his mental disability as an excuse not to work? Ohhh, no. <br /><br />I know how it feels to be so overwhelmed by mental illness that working makes you want to die [Im sorry if that sounds dramatic, Starbucks did that to me]. I have also seen it VERY clearly in my father and his ex wife. <br /><br />I completely respect you and what you are saying and think your friend was wrong to say that to you. Until you've walked in someone elses shoes or worn a pair similar...who are you to judge? <br /><br />I wish you all the best and I am on your side, cheering for you. <3Alexandra Risinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06037472220915433875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-56135341013529801272010-02-11T16:36:46.966-08:002010-02-11T16:36:46.966-08:00im so glad that you shared that. im on a governmen...im so glad that you shared that. im on a government sickness benefit, my parents pay for all of my treatment that i have ever recieved. i am in no way fit to work, if i do, i just go back off the rails, i would rather work, but when i do i lose my path in recovery and fall back. what your friend said was pretty ignorant. and hurtful. and i think you have written that post out so well, would you be bable to print it off and show it to her? i understand that it could be too difficult. i am so sorry you had to deal with someone who doesnt understand and hurt you, but you know that you are not the things she said. i think every person with an eating disorder would give anything to magically be healed by positive thinking, it would save our loved ones grief and money, the govenment benefits doesnt even scrape the sides on how much is spent on treatment. and you need all the assistance you can get to work on your health. you are so brave to be fighting this, and supportive people is what you need in your life, i was upset by a girl last night who despite knowing i am in a really sensative place right now was an absolute meany, and i just thought "goodbye". i hope this miss-perfect-life can realise at some point recovery isnt easy, and that comments that arent supportive should be kept inside. i just wish i could give you a big hug. kia kaha be strong, thinking of you lisa. and i know its hard to not let people upset you, but just talk to the ones who support you 100%Lou Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10477250918384873928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-24964254447315246542010-02-11T16:15:32.053-08:002010-02-11T16:15:32.053-08:00woah, thats a bit harsh to say about you. i hate h...woah, thats a bit harsh to say about you. i hate how people think that we choose to stay like this. but we would MUCH rather be healthy.. itd be so much easier.<br /><br />to me, you're an inspiration because youve been through so much and you're still struggling through but you're still here for your family, and trying your hardest at keeping healthy.<br /><br />i hope you dont believe what your friend said. you cant help being sick just as much as a paraplegic or someone with cancer. its no different.<br /><br />take care<br />xoxGirl.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12138102536171702225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-89272920680598083352010-02-11T15:56:19.654-08:002010-02-11T15:56:19.654-08:00I shook me head in disbelief towards the end of th...I shook me head in disbelief towards the end of this when I realized you felt so upset about something some said about you that you have only known for 5 months. It pisses me off that we care sooo much what others think about us, but yet we still sit here and struggle to lead healty lives despite the fact that everyone talks about how sick we are. <br /><br />I hope that you continue to keep progressing. I would sit here and blow smoke about how I think you'll recover but hell idk if you will. I am always hear as an ear tho even tho I might not have any advice.Lost in Obsessionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17960293674142284056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1780058410537977838.post-2556007534504908952010-02-11T15:33:38.858-08:002010-02-11T15:33:38.858-08:00As someone who has been suffering from an eating d...As someone who has been suffering from an eating disorder for only a fraction of the years you have,4 years, I am so thankful to you for sharing this. While it is hard to desire recovery some days it is amazing to see you trying and not giving up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com