Tuesday, January 12, 2010

group !?!?

Ok, so the local hospital has an eating disorder support group tonight from 7-9pm and I have decided to go. Durring the first hour you can bring a friend or family member and Chris is going to come with me. I am pretty excited about this and a little nervous. I think it would be great even if Chris doesn't talk, because maybe something someone else says will be helpful to him. Also, does this, like, count as a date???

The second hour is what I am more nervous about. I have been in many ED groups in my life, and know from experience that they can be REALLY helpful, or REALLY unhelpful. It just depends on the mix of patients, and their motivation to recover. I just hope it doesn't digress into an hour of "compare & despair", if you know what I mean.

And then there is my own attitude. Don't get me wrong; I will bring my A game. Recovery all the way! But in my mind already I am worrying about if I will be the fattest one there, and I have just put on my ultra-slimming black leggings and an oversized top. So much for maturity and resolve.

I will have to post a part II to this and tell you all how it went. Think positive healthy thoughts for me!!!

7 comments:

Eating Alone said...

Yes to part 2. I've never had a group, except for stuip anger managment, grrrr.... Well you can see how well that worked.

No you can't count it as date unless he take's you somewhere after. And I almost said out to dinner.

Cammy said...

Sending tons of positive thoughts your way, can't wait to hear how it goes. I am so glad you have a supportive husband that will go to things like this with you. I think it totally counts as a date, because y'all are spending time with one another in a way that shows love and caring. Hang in there, remember that a person's size does NOT reflect how much they're suffering or how valid their issues are, so comparing yourself is just a mind game. I really hope that this goes well, remember that you may not necessarily connect on the first visit, give yourself a chance to adjust!

Katilexis said...

i hope this goes well! cammy said it perfectly, your size doesn't reflect how valid your issues are.
<3

now.is.now said...

Oh, I'm so proud of you for going and so glad for you that chris is coming. That says a lot; he is a great guy! I think everyone fears they will be the "biggest" one there... just remember that 1) you'll certainly feel bigger than you are, and 2) exactly what Cammy said - a person's size doesn't reflect the seriousness of their issues or the extent of their suffering. Let us know how it went! Is this a weekly thing?

I Hate to Weight said...

i'm sorry-- i know how serious this is, but i can't stop laughing about

"And then there is my own attitude. Don't get me wrong; I will bring my A game. Recovery all the way! But in my mind already I am worrying about if I will be the fattest one there, and I have just put on my ultra-slimming black leggings and an oversized top. So much for maturity and resolve."

anyone with that sense of humor and intelligence and perception (YOU) has all that it takes to figure your way in that group.

it's natural that you'll be nervous. it helps me when i'm nervous to say that i am. i find that by addressing it, it feels a little better. and then others in the group often nod along, and it just feels that much safer in the room.

dietcokefiend2 said...

that is SO awesome! no purging! I'm trying so hard not to do it... i stumbled upon your blog and happily so, I hope to keep following u. take care.
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Maeve said...

I hope that the group went really well!! I've had some major success with groups, but I also completely understand your hesitation about starting a new group. It's tough, but you can definitely handle it.

I'm glad that Chris could go with you for the first hour. That sounds like a great idea and I really hope it is helpful for the two of you.

Good luck!!!